Finding the right time to settle down into the family and married life is really a big leap of faith. For many of us in the late 20s or early 30s, the idea of entering a new chapter in our lives can be glaring and overwhelming. And while we are getting tired of the question “when are you getting married?” during family gatherings, a better question would be “when is the best time to get married?”
1. When you’ve finally peaked at emotional maturity.
A lot of people tend to compromise their married life because of, well, immaturity and repressive emotions. The ability to process and regulate your emotions especially during rough patches will determine how well you could possibly handle your marriage. Before you marry someone, it is best to consider that you are marrying them to become your lifelong partner and not your own therapist. By this, we mean that deep-seated hurts and unprocessed emotions need to be healed and processed so as not to be the cause of future conflicts.
2. Your spiritual life is stable.
It really is important that you take your singlehood as a time to strengthen your faith. Likewise, finding a partner who has the same level of spiritual maturity will also go a long way. In the long run, your strong spiritual life will help you withstand whatever trials that will test your marriage.
3. You’ve grown contented with your singlehood.
Now, this is the part where everyone seems to miss out. Before you enter family life, make it a point that you have fully outgrown your life as a single person. By this we mean that you have had enough of those late Friday night outs, spontaneous drinking sessions with your friends, out of town trips with your bffs, and all that. One good reason to get married is that you have fully enjoyed and outgrown your life being single so much that you feel you are ready to take a big leap into the ‘next chapter’ of your life – more responsibilities, less of yourself and more for your family.
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4. You already have a stable career
Your career stability is also worth considering too. Once you are finally entering marriage, you would want to make sure that you have almost (if not fully) accomplished your own career goals and corporate ladder. Establishing your own career first makes it viable for you to prioritize your family life thereafter. Also, it is a must to evaluate if your career and finances are already stable that it makes you capable of sustaining a family.
5. You and your partner are both independent from your parents.
By the age of 18, your parents have already let you live life on your own in a way or two. In the same way, This means that you are already capable of sustaining your lifestyle without financial help from your parents. At this point in your life, your parents are now considered as consultants.
6. You know your partner very, very well ENOUGH.
While it is true that you will never get to see a person’s truest colors unless you start to live with them under the same roof, it is still essential to reassure yourself that you know your partner well enough to be your lifelong buddy. How does your partner act when s/he is mad? Is s/he empathetic towards others’ situations? Does your partner owe responsibilities for his/her mistakes instead of blaming other people? Remember that your partner will also be the parent of your children and knowing him/her will help you determine what kind of parents your children will be having. This tip still applies even if you opt to not have kids, as well.
7. You cannot imagine settling for any less than what you deserve.
All marrying couples hold a belief that they no longer need to settle for less than what their partners are. If you have gotten to the same realization that the best life is lived with your current partner, then, by all means, it is a green flag over there.
At Mimi Ebichi Events, we make sure not to settle for less than your expectations by giving you a wedding that you so deserve. We understand that this is a significant chapter of your life that you are about to enter and we want your celebrations to be nothing but blissful.
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